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A year ago I became an official Cowry Shell Divine

A year ago I became an official Cowry Shell Diviner from my mentor and now beloved memory, Elder Malidoma Somé. I was honored to attend one of his final divination training as he transitioned to the ancestor world in December of 2021. So I continue to grieve for him. ⁠
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I want to explain a bit about Cowry Shell Divination, then extend a few special offerings, and give you a message from the shells themselves. ⁠
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Cowry Shell Divination is a language from other realms, from the Ancestors; it is a language of the soul. A diviner is someone who can see into other dimensions and bring back messages for how to be in this world. ⁠
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From Malidoma, “Divination is an effective tool for tackling the crisis of the human psyche in modern times. Divination clarifies the meaning of the Soul’s quest and sheds light to the obstacles to overcome on the way to successful living. In other words, divination does not just tell you what is going on in your life; it tells you what you need to do in order to flow into your gifts and fulfill your purpose. Divination provides a positive spin on human challenges by emphasizing gifts and purpose.”⁠

#cowryshelldivination #cowryshells #cowryshelldivinationreading #tarot #tarotreading #lifeclarification #lifedirection #ancestors #ancestralsupport #guidance #betherlandergrieffriend #griefsupport #griefcoach #grief #griefprocess #lifetransition #clarity #purpose #lifepurpose

Need some easy grief support? I’ve got 9 Tips fo

Need some easy grief support? I’ve got 9 Tips for Being with Grief plus a monthly newsletter to help you navigate the ongoing wild ride of grieving. ⁠
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Link in bio!

Singing to my tree friend yesterday. It has the as

Singing to my tree friend yesterday. It has the ash boarer disease and I am so very sad. I will miss them when they’re gone.

And then it reminds me of all the other loves in my life that I will miss when they are gone.

So I sing my grief and praise to them all.

#anticipatorygrief #earthgrief #treegrief #plantallies #grief #griefandpraise #sing #singyoursong #singgrief #betherlandergrieffriend #griefsupport #griefcoaching #griefprocess #futuregrief #sharegrief #griefcommunity #griefandgratitude #trees #sentientbeings

I just got out on my daily walk and it’s not jus

I just got out on my daily walk and it’s not just about getting some cardio for me. ⁠
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My walk has become a practice of intention/prayer and connection/communication to the natural world, to the other than human beings—the furry, feather and finned ones, the rocks, pebbles and the rooted leafy ones.⁠
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My walk goes up and down in a loop on the foothills near the Rocky Mountains. I intentionally turn my phone to airplane mode so that I can tune into a completely different frequency.⁠
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Then I sometimes find small white quartz stones and place them in my hand and shake them as I speak out loud to Spirit/God and to the elements as well. ⁠
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I pray up the mountain. Sometimes this prayer turns into a song. ⁠
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I place these rocks on a boulder where I noticed someone started a pile of white pebbles. I leave them there full of my prayers and intentions for my loved ones, my clients and the planet.⁠
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Today I needed to do my practice of kneeling to touch a special stone that I have a relationship with—I kneel and place my hands on her and then today I especially felt drawn to placing my forehead on her. ⁠
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For me anxiety seems to speak the loudest in my thinking brain—it’s where all those thoughts live-the “what if” scenarios.⁠
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So I needed to place my head on the cold stone and simply let gravity hold me there. I softened and relaxed my jaw and I noticed the pressure of my neck releasing a bit by simply letting my head be held by the earth. ⁠
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And I paused there. Pausing is always a good trick.⁠
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And if you can’t get outside to put your head on a stone—you can easily do this at a table or desk. ⁠
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At the table, it’s nice to simply let your arms dangle beside you as well. Let gravity help you. It feels really good. Try it now and come back to these words on this screen.⁠
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Speaking of screens-get off of them as much as you can. Even while you’re working, set a timer where you look away and let your eyes land on 3 items that are pleasing to you.⁠
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What do you do to move grief and anxiety through your body? ⁠
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Please share in the comments.

Some simple grief ritual practices you can do...

Some simple grief ritual practices you can do...

May you #grievewellbewell

#griefrituals #grieve #griefandloss #navigategrief #honorgrief #grieveinnature #nature #betherandergrieffriend #griefsupport #griefcoach #grieftherapist #griefcommunity

We’re staying alive...and living with quadripleg

We’re staying alive...and living with quadriplegia. We’ve had to work hard to find joy. The disco light inspired by my youngest nephew makes the bedtime routine so much more fun.

I’ve had to become what I call the joy detective... and early on in my grief it was so hard to find one thing that lightened our days.

Need some help with finding joy again? Reach out, I’d be honored to help.

PS- I didn’t mean to cut Michael, @carnivorequad , out so often, I found it challenging to film us both and rock out or rather disco out at the same time.

What helps you connect with joy?

#joydetective #connecttojoy #quadlife #quadwife #livingwithquadriplegia #findjoy #resilience #dance #danceanywayyoucan #griefandloss #griefandjoy #griefsupport #griefcoach #laughterheals #discolover #beegees #stayinalive #wagsofsci #lifetransition #rollingon #keepgoing

💙 Did you know you could set aside time to grie

💙 Did you know you could set aside time to grieve like you set aside time to go to the dentist? ⁠
💙 Do you struggle to set time aside for your grief?⁠
💙 Are you confused about what grief is?⁠
💙 Are you set in grief being done in certain stages but here you are in anger again?⁠
💙 Were you already grieving before this pandemic & everything else that’s happening right now and so now you feel even more overwhelmed?⁠
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I am truly sorry that you are feeling this way. I feel it too. And we need to do our best to relieve our fear, anxiety and grief during this time.⁠
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I created a DIY Online Grief Relief program for those of you who were dealing with sudden unexpected loss and intense grief. ⁠
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This program is for all of us but it’s especially for those of you who are dealing with “normal” loss on top of the pandemic situation. You are really having a double dose of grief.⁠
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Welcome to the possibility of Grief Relief.⁠
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Come with me and let me guide you. ⁠
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Learn what grief really is and how to befriend it so it doesn’t continue to hijack your life.⁠
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This program will give you the tools, tips and tricks that helped me get through my own deep grief. ⁠
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It’s possible to have grief relief and feel joy again. ⁠
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I promise.⁠
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Check out the link in my bio for details!

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fea

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” ⁠
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This is what CS Lewis wrote in his iconic book called A Grief Observed. ⁠
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He wrote it after his beloved wife died.⁠
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Recently one of our young caregivers said to me, “Beth you always seem so positive and upbeat, how do you do it?”⁠
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It was a great moment as I pondered—yes, how do I do it—how do I manage to stay upbeat when the world is collapsing around me?⁠
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Well, for starters, I’ve had lots of practice—losing my partner to quadriplegia has been the best teacher for me in how to keep rolling with what life gives me. ⁠
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Like, literally, since he’s in a wheelchair now!⁠
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And I’d also say I do a lot of managing what’s happening on the inside of me often. The inside of me refers to my emotional state and paying attention to my body’s sensations. ⁠
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And I do both of these with massive doses of curiosity and self-compassion.⁠
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I get curious about grief and fear. ⁠
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I pay attention to where I have a felt-sense of it in my body, and then I usually ask my body-what do you need right now?⁠
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And it usually answers with food, touch or movement. ⁠
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If you have the ability to move, this is the best hack for me. ⁠
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Get up and move right now if you like. And moving outside is even better. Nature is a balm for me in so many ways.⁠
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So seriously—get up and move your body, go outside and walk, even a short one helps. ⁠
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Why do you think we pace when we’re anxious? You could even just shake or giggle your body.⁠
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Need some easy grief support? I’ve got 9 Tips for Being with Grief plus a monthly newsletter to help you navigate the ongoing wild ride of grieving. ⁠
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Link in bio!

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