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Happy Fall Equinox and almost New Moon to you all.   A year ago I became an official Cowry Shell Diviner from my mentor and now beloved memory, Elder Malidoma Somé. I was honored to attend one of his final year long divination trainings as he transitioned to the ancestor world in December of 2021.

Thanks for being here and being part of creating a new culture of grieving.    I write this with a fresh round of Earth grief as I continue to take in the recent news about forever chemicals in the water.   Sorry if you don’t know that news and now you do.   I feel

Blessings to you on this new moon. I hope you can take a moment to pause and rest during this sacred time. This month I want to invite you to really drop into changing the way we Westerners deal with grief, or rather how we don’t. We must create a new culture of being with

Hello dear ones,  Rage is appropriate today… I feel it in my throat, and have the need to both cry and scream.  I started writing this on the day Roe vs. Wade was overturned.  I feel my grief just thinking about the impact this decision will have on so many. Now you know where I

Hello there loves, How are you in this month of June? I‘m doing mostly well…as we head into the hot dry season here and summer is in full swing, you’ll catch me with my hands in the dirt and Michael supervising me on our small bit of land that we get to steward. We were

Hello dear ones, Happy May! Yesterday I took a walk in the rain! I wasn’t dressed for the water pelting me but I didn’t mind, I wanted to be soaked just like the land and plants were. And we were all sighing with relief at this most welcomed water. You see, we didn’t get our usual April showers and

Hello dear ones,   It’s April, the month where we celebrate Earth Day.    I’m as old as Earth Day…it was born the year I was—1970. It was created as a way to bring more awareness to pollution and deforestation at that time.   By now there is so much more that the earth needs

Hello dear ones, I’ve been in a weekly online group since July of 2021 called “Soulful Life” with my grief mentor Francis Weller and another grief warrior, Holly Truhlar, along with about 70 other participants. It’s become a healing balm I look forward to each week, especially now with the war in the Ukraine added

Hello dear ones, This blog expands on something in my last one–pacing yourself as we begin to open up.    If you need an online grief ritual, my friends Joanna Laws Landis and Will Rogers will be facilitating a Grief Tending Circle on Thursday, March 3rd from 2-5pm PST / 5-8pm EST on Zoom. It’s

Hello dear ones, Welcome to 2022. And yeah, I know it’s almost February…I’m giving myself more grace with have-to’s and deadlines, I hope you can too. Does the New Year feel new and did you celebrate it? I didn’t. I didn’t feel like celebrating the New Year at all this year because of the fires

Hello dear ones, ‘Tis the season of wonder as we celebrate the return of the light. And I’m curious how you’re doing in these holy-days. I thought I’d share a few things that I do to decrease the amount of stress that seems to pile up. And if you’re grieving, this time of year can

Hello dear ones, I’ve been getting calls and emails asking if I’m doing any grief rituals lately, and I really appreciate that. Thank you! And I’m not, at least not the one that I used to do that was taught to me by my grief mentor and grief friend Sobonfu Somé. We need to keep

Hello dear ones, I love this time of year in the western hemisphere where nature reminds us that death is part of life as the season changes and plants and trees go dormant or die. But for many of you, this time of year may be especially challenging and even more so if you’re grieving

Hello dear ones, Something BIG and a call to go small…   Starting here with transparency— it’s been hard to write this blog. I’ve been sad a lot lately with the state of the world and how life is these days. It seems what used to be up is down and what’s down is up.

Hello dear ones, Thanks for being here and welcome to those of you who are new. I’m writing this one on National Grief Awareness Day, 8/30/21. And when I think about grief awareness it comes down to this: Grief is more than death loss; it never goes away, we learn to live with it; and

I’ve been experiencing more fear and anxiety over the past few months, and I’m curious if you are too. It seems odd because we’re opening up and coming back to a more normal life, for which I’m grateful. However, I don’t think we’ll ever go back to where we were. At least that’s my experience

Happy belated summer solstice blessings to you from the northern hemisphere since I think that’s where most of you are. Thanks for being here and receiving my nuggets of wisdom about grief. And if you’re new here-welcome! And while it was just the longest day of the year, I feel a kind of dissonance as

How to open your wings through the Ripples of Loss…   I’m not quite ready to go back to normal life.  Are you? Well, and what was “normal” life anyways?    I’m wondering who you were before the pandemic and who you are now? How has the pandemic changed you?    I’m finding it helpful to

Who has your back? Hi everyone and a warm welcome to the new ones! It’s been awhile since I’ve written to you all here. I’m full of all kinds of things related to grief and to race and white supremacy as I write this on the day that the Chauvin trial is wrapping up. I’m

A Vlog and an invitation to a Grief Tending Circle March 11, 202! Happy Spring everyone! I hope you can feel a slight shift with the seasons and may it seep into your soul and bones. Thank you Nature for reminding us of the how spring comes after a long winter of so much grief… And

I’m BOTH grateful AND not grateful and I give you permission to do the same. Hello loves, I write to you while delicate snow flakes fall outside my window and it’s bitter cold. Hello February in Colorado…I hope you’re warm and well wherever you are. We’re also at that time of year where we focus

Welcome newbies!!! Thanks for being here. I try to keep these short (1000 words) so that it’s easier to read. And this year I’d like to add videos and voice recordings-it’s when I capture what’s closest to my heart as I think about you all… New year, same grief… Here we are in 2021…A new calendar

How to Find Joy in the Middle of the Rubble Happy December 2020! Here we are at the end of this long year and at what’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year. Isn’t that what that song says? I usually make up different lyrics to that one, like…it’s the most horrible

Well, here we-entering the holidays as well as our 9th month of the pandemic in the USA. I wish you a Happy Thanksgiving or at least an easy one. And if you’ve recently lost a loved one or are dealing with a recent transition, I send you more love and more ease. Times are hard.