Grief Altar, Grief Ritual

Spring Cleaning For Your Body And Soul…Grieving! (April 2023)

Hello dear ones, Happy full moon to you all. 

Yes grieving=spring cleaning. 

We must clean out the gunk that gathers in our bodies from just living our lives especially lately. It seems like we’re all in some kind of big transition right now. Grief accumulates in the body and we must tend to it. One way to do that is to attend a grief ritual. 

My friend Wendy Kaas and I will be doing that here in the foothills of Boulder, Colorado on April 29th from 11am-7pm. 
The cost is a sliding scale from $75-150 with part of those funds going directly back to Sobonfu’s village in Dano, Burkina Faso, West Africa.

The cost includes a simple vegetarian meal after the ritual is over. We always end with nourishment-both physically and socially with each other. 

If you want to come please send me your payment to my Venmo @nordicbabe. 
Payment claims your space and after we receive it, you will get more instructions. Pay attention to your dreams and inner workings-once you say yes to doing a grief ritual, the process begins.
We only have room for 20 people and we have about 9 people signed up already. 

This ritual will be done in the ways it was taught to me by my grief teacher and the original grief friend-Sobonfu Somé. She always would tell us that we needed to clean out the pipes of grief in order to access more space for joy and life. 

She is so right on. I remember being delightfully perplexed after doing many rounds of grieving the first time I did this grief ritual with her. I danced at the end to the same grief song that encouraged and brought out my grief. I was crying with tears of joy instead of pain. My heart felt lighter and I was able to go back into my life of dealing with the losses that Michael and I were experiencing. I had more energy for my life. 

I came to need a grief ritual every four months. I could feel the backup of the grief gunk that collects like leaves and twigs stuck in an eddy in a river. Grieving with community and in ritual in this way helps open the way for your grief to flow. 

So come join us if you can. More of these to come in the future. 

And if you’re unable to come but still want to do some grieving, read this blog for how to set time aside to have a personal grief ritual.

In Sobonfu’s words, “We see that in life it is necessary to grieve those things that no longer serve us and let them go. We experience conflicts, loved ones die or suffer, dreams never manifest, illnesses occur, relationships break up, and there are unexpected natural disasters. It is so important to have ways to release those pains to keep clearing ourselves. Hanging on to old pain just makes it grow until it smothers our creativity, our joy, and our ability to connect with others. It may even kill us. Often my community uses grief rituals to heal wounds and open us to spirit’s call, because there is a price in not expressing one’s grief. Unexpressed hurt and pain injure our souls. Imagine if you never washed your clothes or showered. The toxins that your body produces just from everyday living would build up and get really stinky. That is how it is with emotional and spiritual toxins too. What we must remember is that the more these toxins rise the more we have a tendency to blame or hurt others around us. People never harm others out of joy, they give pain to others because they too are hurt or in pain.”

I have a new spring offering-another way to help move and clean out the grief gunk. It involves the two things I love to do the most-cowry shell divinations & rituals. 

You’ll receive one Cowry Shell Divination with me and then from that there will be some prescription for you to take action in some way, and usually this means doing some kind of ritual. So we will take some time to co-create that together. 

Then you will either go and do that ritual yourself or if you are local, we may gather and do this ritual together. 

The cost for this is $370.75 which includes:
One divination ($180 value)
Two 1:1 sessions, one of which may be the in-person ritual. ($360 value)

Reach out to me to let me know if you could use this right now in your life as we clear out the grief gunk, continue to process where we’ve been these last few years, and leap into Spring and new beginnings. 

Many blessings to you all.
Grieve well, be well.