Hello there loves,
How are you in this month of June?
I‘m doing mostly well…as we head into the hot dry season here and summer is in full swing, you’ll catch me with my hands in the dirt and Michael supervising me on our small bit of land that we get to steward. We were recently in awe of our first time cactus blooms!
This is a short blog to simply let you know that I’m starting to offer grief ritual practices again-both online AND a few in person! At the bottom I also walk you through setting up a simple grief altar.
The next online one will this coming Saturday June 18th in honor of father’s day.
I’d like to hold the intention of the grief that exists for many around father’s day-not having a father, not becoming a father, having a strained relationship with their father or those that never got to meet their fathers, fathers who died too soon, fathers whose children died too soon, or father’s that are in the process of losing their health and abilities, etc.
While the invitation is regarding father’s day grief, you are still welcome to join if you have other grief to process as well.
There’s a lot to grieve these days…so let’s open up the pipes of grief and let it flow in the presence of each other and community.
We’ll start at 11am MST, and I’ll hold space for about an hour or so.
It will be an invitation to give attention and expression to any unprocessed grief that you’re holding. I’ll encourage you to move it with your body, your voice, and creative tools such as writing and art making.
Here’s the link to register: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZ0sd-isrD4iGNEubXPWh4nCASNkyLAkjz50
In regards to my in-person rituals—I’ve been invited to lead a private grief ritual for a small community in Maine. (Michael and I will be traveling there to visit his family in July).
And I’ve been asked to lead a small grief circle. I’m very excited to do this on the land and in person!
I’m letting you know here in case you’re interested in having me lead a grief ritual practice with you and your community.
Reach out to me and we can discuss details and personalize the practice.
It’s time to gather in person to grieve for such a backlog of losses for these past 2+ years, yes?
And the other in-person grief ritual is in the works for an event in Colorado sometime late summer or early fall. Stay tuned for more info on this. And if you’re an immediate YES! Then email me and I’ll add you to the list.
In the meantime, here are other ways of working with me.
I created an online grief relief program that you can start using and use at your own pace. It has 8 modules full of how to befriend grief. There are two offerings-one is just the modules and the other is the modules with two 1:1 sessions with me. Reach out to me if you want to learn more.
And as a gift to you I’m giving you a bonus right now. One of the modules is called “Finding joy in the Middle of the Rubble.” It was the module I enjoyed the most to create.
Here’s the link to register: https://p.bttr.to/3mItkfn
And use coupon code JOY for 100% off. This will be valid until my birthday 8/24/22.
It will give you an idea of how I work and how the modules are.
And if you’re needing grief support and guidance you can hire me for just a few sessions.
I leave you now with this simple grief practice of setting up a grief altar:
- Find a place in your home to set up a simple altar. You could also set it up outside.
- An ideal place is in your living area or study, I would not set it up in the bedroom.
- My grief mentor Sobonfu actually suggested setting it up in your bathroom where water is a prominent feature. Water is supportive for letting grief flow.
- You could find a large rock that represents your grief and place this in your bathtub or shower and that way when you’re bathing you could also imagine cleansing your grief.
- For your living room, I would start with placing a black piece of fabric or painting a shelf black.
- Then add a white candle, and a bowl of water.
- Keep it simple.
- When you have time, sit quietly at this altar with your grief. Light your candle and say a prayer or invocation. And then just notice what you feel as you honor and sit with your grief. Stay as long as you need to.
- You can journal or draw, or just simply cry.
- When you are done, say a prayer of thanks, and tell it you’ll be back and when.
- Then blow out the candle and go outside if you can and feel the air on your skin and drink some water and eat something to nourish yourself.
If you try this, let me know how it goes…
I’m excited to be crafting the next blog for you now. It’s all about being with and moving anger and rage, which seems be so important these days.
Grieve well, be well.
Beth, your friend in grief