Yesterday I asked my client how they were doing with the holidays approaching, now that it’s December. After a long sigh they replied, “Honestly, I’m dreading it.”
So, welcome to dreaded December especially for those of you in acute grief going through your first holiday season without your loved one. Or perhaps you’re deep in the throes of some kind of soul initiation-something’s been ripped away and you’re deep in the cocoon goo I call liminal space.
So, how do you deal with the holidays then?
In the USA it’s almost impossible to ignore them with holiday music blaring and decorations everywhere you go, along with the message that it’s the happiest time of the year.
The only way to escape it is to disconnect completely; rent yourself a cabin in the woods and be a hermit until January 2nd.
But that’s unrealistic.
So here’s some tips to get you through these holi-days.
❄️ Become a joy detective-even the smallest of moments of joy can bring some reprieve.
It may be steam rising from your tea in the morning light, or the loving gesture from your pet, or becoming aware of your breath.
🎄Get out in nature. Go for long walks. Pause and take in the beauty.
If you can, bring nature inside.
I had resistance to decorating this year so I went to Trader Joe’s and bought 6 bouquets of flowers. When I got home I made 4 stunning bouquets! I intentionally bought mostly red and white flowers with lots of extra pine tree greens. So even if I don’t put up anything else, there’s a festive feel with these flowers in the house.
I bought the white flowers with the intention of creating an altar or shrine dedicated to LIGHT.
Instead of focusing on holiday joy, turn your attention to celebrate the return of the light. All traditions focus on this at this time of year.
🌟Build an altar in honor of the light and add to it as we get closer to the Solstice, Hanukkah, or Christmas. Include your family members or friends to help you.
What symbols and items represent LIGHT?
🌟I’ll add white feathers, white quartz stones, and symbols of the sun and stars. I plan to arrange this on a black cloth as a reminder that the light is more brilliant against the darkness. We cannot have light without the dark, and vice versa.
🌟I’ll mainly use the colors of white, yellow, gold and silver and anything else that shines and sparkles. I’ll add twinkle lights too.
Have fun with it and get creative. I may place my hand drum as a backdrop to represent the sun and the heartbeat within all of us.
☀️Get out in the light if you can or lay in the rays coming into your home. Right now the sun sets super early, so I prioritize getting outside while the sun is still out.
I pause and turn my face to the sun and feels it’s warmth and say thanks for shining for another day.